The Real Self Care
I did not get the memo about self-care growing up, especially during young adulthood, and motherhood. I did get the memo about self-care when I entered the world of life coaching. At first, I thought it sounded kind of icky and uncomfortable. Maybe like you, I thought...
We Teach People How to Treat Us
I am just gonna say it, Ruffus and I did not do so great at Doggie School. Phew, I said it. Another thing, it was on me, NOT Ruffus. The very nice, kind, and world-renowned dog trainer said it was on me. I would call Ruffus 5 times before he came. It went like this...
None of our Business what Others Think
"I didn't tell you this yesterday 'cause I was so upset," said my husband Martin as he sat down on the edge of our bed. Panic started to rise up in me as I waited for him to tell me what was on his mind. Here we go. Martin and Ruffus were walking down our street, a...
Gossip and Boundaries
One of my favorite people in the whole wide world is my coach Susan Hyatt. A few months ago she told me that she was approached in the gym, by a woman who wanted to gossip about another woman. Her response was " I don't talk about people behind their backs unless it...
The Pushback Continued
In any relationship whether with ourselves or others, we get used to doing things or being a certain way. When we decide to set a boundary it is because we want to make a change. I did that when I stopped drinking wine, my clients do it all the time. We, humans, have...
The Pushback
I am pretty sure that when people are afraid, hesitant, and nervous to Set Boundaries, it is because of The Pushback. Pushback is when the boundary we have set is not honored, it comes in various forms. Some of the common ones are ignoring the boundary, testing the...