We live in challenging times, don’t we? It appears that for many of us personally there is just too much going on. Globally there is a lot going on and some days or even many days or even most days it can seem like just too darn much. We feel frustrated, and agitated, at the end of our ropes, it is called OVERWHELM. I get it and I can help.
Together we dive into your personal overwhelm, identify the causes, and the solutions, and help bring you back to peace and calm. We will create your very own Beyond Overwhelm Kit to use now and whenever Overwhelm comes your way.
The cost is 139.00 USD inludes a 90 minute one on one session with Coach Susy
Here is what one of my client’s had to say about working with me.
I am more cognizant of my thoughts and feelings now. I am more proactive about challenges. I feel confident in my ability to rise up to life’s weather and that even if and when I lose my grip, I feel fine and good about starting again. Probably the biggest gift she helped me reveal was a strong and obvious sense of hope. I don’t ever remember having that before in a real way. There is a way, things can change, and dreams are not just fantasy.
Soothe frustration and what’s driving you crazy. Return to peace and calm.
My dog Ruffus continues to teach me every day. Last evening we heard a short, clear “ruff’ out of him. Ruffus doesn’t bark, I mean to say he barks about once a month. So when we heard a “ruff” from the kitchen we knew it meant something. Someone he didn’t know very well had walked passed his food bowl. Ruffus, a former abandoned beach dog is protective of his food. He has a boundary about it. Being a dog he has no words so he communicates with a “ruff”. Short, clear. concise. He happens to be textbook perfect about setting a boundary.
When we set a boundary we need to be short, clear, and concise. A lot of us are not comfortable setting boundaries, because they were not modeled for us as kids and we haven’t had much practice doing it. That can lead to long drawn out confusing communications about boundaries rather than our equivalent of “ruff”.
Let me give you an example. In my household, I need the kitchen to be clean after anyone uses it. EVERYONE in the house knows this. Why? It is because I say ” the kitchen needs to be cleaned up right after you use it”. I don’t say,” If you don’t mind could you clean it or I am sorry to ask, but could you clean it? or I hate to bother you, I am just picky but could you clean it?,” No, No. No. I say it as Ruffus does with his “ruff”.
Do you have a boundary that you need/want to set? This week, pick one. Keep your communication, short and concise like your own version of “ruff”
Next time we will look at Step 2 of boundary setting. Our actions.
Ahhh, that moment when the Good Witch, says “You had the power all along dear” to Dorothy and she clicks her beautiful Ruby slippers together and poof she is back to Kansas, her home.
We all know the story of how she followed that yellow brick road and along the way she met dear friends, like the scarecrow, the tin man and the lion. She also met a terrifying witch, scary monkeys, drug filled poppy field and a charlatan wizard to name a few!
I think the story is so profound. We all follow the our yellow brick roads, called life, don’t we? We meet our scarecrows, tin men,and lions. We find love, courage, brains and we also have our share of witches, scary monkeys and charlatan wizards. they come in the form of disappointments, fear, loss to name a few. We get lost and can’t find our way back home to our own Kansas so to speak, just like Dorothy.
Sometimes when we are lost we feel stuck, but like Dorothy, we have the power all along, we really do. And sometimes like Dorothy, we need The Good Witch Glinda along our side to help us find our power, to help us remember that all we have to do is click our heels.
In my own life, I have found my Good Witch Glindas many times over! I hire Life Coaches to help me find my way. When my husband and I decided to follow our dream and move to a tropical island we hired a coach to help us make sure we got there. When we almost died in a car accident I hired a coach to help me find my way to the new normal. Building a business to help others, I hired a coach. I hired a coach to help me figure out Wine! And each time what they did was help me realize that all along I had the power to find my own way, my own answers, my own power! Not saying it is actually always so easy as clicking the ruby slippers. It is however about finding your own power when life has obscured it from us!
When Ruffus and I were out running this morning it came to me that as a Life Coach for others I am like the Good Witch Glinda! I support my clients, I believe in my clients, I champion their success and serve as a guidepost to them, keeping them from danger and most of all reminding them they have the power all along.
Ruffus
Susy Giddy is a Certified Life Coach. She lives with her husband Martin, Ruffus the Rescue Dog, and Corey the kitten. She can be reached at susy@cabaretelifecoaching.com or FB Cabarete Life Coaching
I just received this from one of my beautiful clients!
REVIEW:
I’ve been seeing Suzy for almost a year now. 2020/2021 Wow. I can’t imagine where I would be without her support over this time. She coached me through recovery from Covid-19, a subsequent back problem that landed me nearly 3 months of bed rest, a strict quarantine when the new variant hit my community, reentry into society and work, and all of the things I didn’t even know that were pulling at my strings, making me a puppet of an unhelpful mentality.
Suzy has a very special ability to know someone and be with them in just the way they need. She has been very flexible with me as a cheerleader, coach, friend, and teacher. Imagine if you had a teacher that let you write your curriculum and determine your own homework and when you didn’t feel like it, they would do it for you.
I came to Suzy to get some help with self-discipline and maybe set a new course for my career. I got that and as a bonus, I have made changes that have essentially removed mental illness from my life. What!? I don’t even know how to explain it. I just know that I have always been on and off medications for depression and anxiety and now I doubt if I will ever need them again.
It sounds like a lot, and it is.
For me, having a life coach has sped up my development in every aspect of life that is important to me. Sometimes it is simple things like arranging my schedule. Sometimes it is crucial shifts like learning to love and care for myself.
We hear a lot about fake news these days, don’t we? On TV, on Social Media, there are even documentaries on Fake News. During the pandemic, we have been quarantined, working from home, isolated, and in many ways just plain bored. This has led us to spend more time watching TV, Netflix, and scrolling, to name a few of our strategies.
The thing about Fake News is we tend to believe what we think and hear. So think about it, it is on TV, it is breaking news, it goes into our brains and minds and we don’t even stop to consider if it is true or not. Facebook and other social media have back-end algorithms based on our preferences and so we are sent ads and other information to further our beliefs that what we hear is true. Don’t believe me? Try googling, hmmm, tiddlywinks, pretty soon you will be seeing information about tiddlywinks popping up in e-mails, articles, and thinly disguised ads. All designed to reinforce what we believe, even and maybe especially if it is Fake News. The result, we believe it.
The remarkable thing is our own thoughts and minds deliver us Fake News, all day long. I know, sounds weird, doesn’t it? Consider this, we have somewhere around 60,000 thoughts a day, wild isn’t it. How many of them are true? How many do we believe? Most of our thoughts are in effect Fake News. Oh, it is Monday…. gonna be a bad day. Oh, I am too tired to do that task…She didn’t smile at me she must be mad… see what I mean? It goes on and on all day long upwards of 60,000 times a day, mostly without any fact-checking. And we believe our thoughts and we can make ourselves miserable and stressed because we believe our thoughts.
The GREAT news, not fake either, is that we can change our thoughts. Read that again we can change our thoughts. Literally, like waving a magic wand. And when we change our thoughts, guess what we feel better, immediately. So, try Hey it’s Monday gonna be a great day, I am tired and I can still do that task, ah she didn’t smile I hope she is OK. See the shifts in energy and mood. See how our very own minds work like fake news?
I suggest doing your own fact checking throughout the day. Follow this model:
What are the facts?
It is Monday
What are your thoughts?
I love Mondays vs I hate Mondays.
Hint. Your thoughts are not the facts. The facts are the facts. Monday is a fact, hating or loving Mondays is a thought you have about the facts. Very important distinction.
You get to choose what you think. You really do. Don’t believe everything you think. Try it and let me know how it goes.
Warmly,
Susy Giddy
Susy Giddy is a Certified Life Coach. She helps people FEEL Better Now. She can be reached at susy@cabaretelifecoaching.com or on FB at Cabarete Life coaching
There is a poignancy to the Last Chair Up, of a ski season. It represents, the end of one season, that moment when what is, becomes what was, it is a moment of reflection on the season, and the daring to anticipate the next, should we, by grace be lucky enough to partake.
But this particular Last Chair Up was to be something that at once no one would want to take and in its pain held great love and joy, all from a stranger, whose name we did not know.
We asked to take the Last Chair Up, so that we could say farewell to our son Robin’s ashes, which we had recently lay at the summit of our beloved Mont Tremblant. Robin, our robust, athletic, ski loving, handsome and loving boy had recently succumbed to glioblastoma after living with this deathly cancer for 17 years.
Our request was met with honour, respect and I dare say love, from a stranger. As we waited, sadly and tearfully for the moment to come, we heard wafting through the air Leonard Cohen’s Hallelujah Chorus, the very song we had played at Robin’s Celebration of life. We tearfully boarded the chair and as we passed the lift attendant station, he placed his fist on his heart and up we went to the summit with Leonard Cohen in our ears and hearts. And when we dismounted the lift at the top, the lift attendant bowed, with his fist to his heart.
We skied past the place where Robin’s ashes lie, we gave thanks for his life and then we skied down the whole mountain, all alone, just Martin, and I and grief and love.
And now we return almost every day to that lift. and every day we smile at the stranger we now know to be Mathieu. And in the pain of our grief is, born over and over again the beauty of The Last Chair Up. And the gift from someone who did not know us, nor us him, but who knew about love and loss. And as time goes by, the mix of pain and grief and love changes.. more love less grief….. and as far as The Last Chair Up goes, our hearts will remain forever grateful to Mathieu.
Meet Susy Giddy. Originally from Halifax, Nova Scotia, Susy and her husband moved to Cabarete, Dominican Republic in 2009. Susy is the founder of Cabarete Life Coaching and her strength is helping people live bravely and with courage -especially when life throws them lemons 🍋. In 2016, Susy and her husband survived a car accident that radically changed their lives. She understands the power of making brave choices when you experience challenges. You can hear their story on the Finding Bravery podcast 🎧 Today, Susy is making these Brave Soles black Avarca look even more classy 🍸
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it” Nelson Mandela
During the first days and weeks after our car accident, I was feeling overwhelmed! I was in pain, terrified, traumatized, my husband had a broken neck, and countless medical appointments and I was so afraid! I couldn’t see how this would get better or how I would make it. I knew one thing, I could call my Life Coach, and I knew she would help! I felt better the second I called her, she listened, she soothed, together we developed a plan for me, she in fact helped me bring my “A” game to the journey from my life being literally turned upside down by the car accident, to life being amazing.
My clients come to me, with lives also turned upside down, by any number of circumstances that life can come our way, domestic violence, divorce, disappointments, financial hardships, job loss, illness, loss of loved one and so on. The stories may be different, but all have in common a deep sense of loss and overwhelm, coaching helps to find courage, to triumph to be resilient.
It is an honour and a privilege to be trusted with my clients stories, I work with each one to support, soothe, and help them find ways to master the fear, to bounce back and forward from whatever has come their way!
