As one of my heroes, Jane Fonda says, I am in my third act and I am making it the best one yet. I mean to be able to have a third act is a true blessing, isn’t it? So many people in my life have not had that luxury and so for me it is so important that this act be the best one yet.
Jane Fonda suggests doing a ” Life Review” of sorts as you hit your third act. Isn’t this just right up a Life Coach’s alley? I think Life Reviews are important at any age and act! ( Contact me if you wish help with this)
Anyway, as I was doing my own Life Review yesterday ( photo above) is me in the midst review. I came to the somewhat uncomfortable realization that my first two acts were filled with ” Giving too many f*$ks and now I actually have none left to give. Just like the little song, above I overspent my F*$ks, try to get things “right”, ” not wanting to offend”, ” saying yes” when I wanted to say no. I am officially done with that.
I am not the only one who has run out of ” f**cks” to give. Much of the work I do with my clients comes down to this very thing. It is about feeling like others’ wants and needs come first, or not wanting to disappoint others, it is about being afraid to speak up, it is about overtrying. It is about not listening to ourselves, it is a hard way to live.
It sounds like, Getting a great idea and then” Oh I can’t do that” It sounds like not wanting to do something and doing it anyway cuz you don’t want to offend, even though you don’t know if it will offend.it looks like not holding your own boundaries and accepting others’ version of what is true for them and not true for you. It kind of sucks.
One of my clients is working on moving her body more because she really wants to have good health and wellness. She sometimes puts everyone else’s needs before hers because she doesn’t want to ” disappoint”. We are working on her learning not to disappoint herself because she matters, and then she moves her body and has good health.
One of my clients, a small business owner didn’t want to offend people by asking for a fair price for her services. As we healed her relationship with money, she learned to ask for a fair price and now her business is flourishing.
Another of my clients doesn’t like to ask for the help she needs, so she burns herself out trying to do it all. So our work has been helping her learn that it is fine to ask for help and so she actually gets more done with less burnout.
I hope this has been helpful
Coach Susy
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